Parents and screen time: role-modelling for children

What is healthy screen use?

Healthy screen use is using technology in balanced and positive ways.

It’s about what you use your screens for, when you choose to use them, and how much time you spend using them. It’s also about getting a healthy mix of work, social, leisure and digital activities into your life.

How your approach to screens influences your child

Your screen use choices can have a positive influence on your child’s attitude to screens. Children develop healthy screen use habits when they see you and other key role models using screens in healthy, balanced ways.

You can have this kind of influence simply by making regular, screen-free time for your own activities and family activities, like walking, reading, eating and just talking. When you do this, it sends your child a couple of key messages:

There are many ways to entertain yourself, relax and have fun – and not all of them involve screens.
Family time is one of the most important ways to spend time.

To grow and thrive, children need warm, responsive interactions with parents. But screens can sometimes get in the way of these kinds of interactions – for example, if parents interrupt conversations with children to check text messages. So when you’re talking or playing with your child, it’s great if you can put devices aside and really focus on what’s important to your child.

Role-modelling healthy screen time: tips

Here are some ideas for healthy screen time that you can use to set a good example for your child:

Set aside some phone-free time each day, so you can be ‘in the moment’ with your child. This could be when your child gets home from school or you get home from work, during family mealtimes, when you’re watching your child play sport, when you’re at the park with your child and so on.
If you get a text message or social media notification while you’re talking to someone, especially your child, wait until the conversation is finished before you check it.
Try not to have your phone, tablet or laptop in your bedroom at night. Charge your devices overnight in a family area, and teach your child to do the same.
Switch off the TV at family mealtimes or when it’s ‘on in the background’. You could try listening to some music instead.
Work together with your child to create a family media plan. You could include things like no mobiles phone at mealtimes. Then make sure you follow the guidelines in the plan too!
Use screens in a positive way – for example, to keep in touch with family and friends by sending texts, making video calls or using social media.
Take breaks and move around regularly when you’re using screens. And use your device at eye level for good posture.
Avoid always using screens to entertain your child in situations like long car journeys or appointments. Try mixing it up with things like memory games, card games, reading or drawing.

Keep track of your screen time for a week. Include all your screen use – TV, video games, social media, texts and so on. If you think you’re using screens more than you’d like to, reduce your use. Try checking your phone less often, or plan heavy use for weekends or as a treat.

Role-modelling healthy social media use: tips

Healthy social media use can keep you connected with friends and interests, the latest news, your child’s school and sports activities, and so on.

If you use and enjoy social media, there are plenty of ways you can be a role model for your child:

Regularly check the privacy settings on your social media accounts.
Take care of your digital footprint by being careful about the photos and comments you post and the photos and comments you’re tagged in. Make sure you’re always respectful in your posts.
Talk about your social media use with your child. This will encourage your child to be open about their social media use too. If you share fun content with each other, it can be a great way to talk about the things you both like and think are important.
Talk with your child about following each other on social media. This can be a great way to be a part of your child’s life and share interests. Younger teenagers might be OK with this, but older teenagers might not want you to follow them.
Ask your child for permission before you post a photo of them or share information about them on social media.

If your screen time feels out of control, try to change the ways you use technology. If you’re finding it hard, look for support from friends, family or a professional. If your child sees you trying to manage your screen time, this sets a good example for them too.